Anger & Reactivity — When the Outburst Isn’t the Problem

If your reaction ever felt bigger than the situation — and you knew it — you’re not alone.

That’s not bad behaviour. That’s a protective loop in action.
At ShiftGrit, we help clients understand: reactive anger isn’t random, and it’s not about being “out of control.”
It’s about being in a loop where the body defends before the mind can intervene.

🧩 Pattern Summary:

• Name: Anger & Reactivity

• What It Feels Like: Sharp, fast reactions — yelling, snapping, withdrawal, shutdown

• What’s Really Happening: The brain tags something as unsafe, fast. The “reaction” is a way to protect the self — from judgment, rejection, shame, or failure.

• Therapy Focus: We decode what your anger is trying to protect — and recondition the belief underneath so your nervous system doesn’t need to defend in the first place.

🧠 How ShiftGrit Treats This:

1. Identify your anger loop: What’s triggering and what’s reacting

2. Name the core fear: “I’ll be humiliated,” “I’ll get hurt,” “I’m failing again”

3. Recondition the belief underneath using imaginal exposure

4. Rewire your nervous system to stay present instead of defend

📍 Related Patterns:

• Threat Brain Activation

• Shutdown & Emotional Numbness

• Emotional Dysregulation

📞 Call to Action:

Your anger isn’t bad — it’s a message. We just need to teach your body a new way to respond.
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